What are the red flags in a relationship?
Relationships are foundations that support your whole life altogether. Relationships are not built instantly and are a process that takes time. This slow process is the time of exploration in a relationship. For instance, the relationship between a child and his parents grows as the child learns to talk, walk, and finally fly off to college. The parent explores different aspects of the child while the child learns from his parent. This is the basic foundation of all relationships, which begins with a phase of exploration and curiosity.
After this phase comes the know-all phase, the exploration period allows you to understand your partner very well. You get to know the good and the worst qualities, and it sometimes starts affecting your relationship. Sometimes it often happens so that we tend to hide our true selves and reveal them in comfortable situations. You start getting comfortable once you have achieved the first phase and the true nature is revealed. For instance, a couple meets at a bar, which turns into a hook-up. They try to develop emotional intimacy and explore each other. Once they get to know each other, they develop love and then finally get married. Living together makes them realize that there are so many things that they did not know about each other. For instance, one member loves throwing their towel on the bed while the other doesn’t both love sleeping on the left side of the bed and argue about it.
The last phase in a relationship is all about loving, caring, understanding, and communicating. When this is absent, it creates a void in the bond. A black hole that sucks the relationship turning their status from mingled to single. There are several gestures, habits, and personality changes that symbolize that the relationship is failing. Identifying these issues at the early stage will allow the couple to work on their relationship. Here are red flags or your intuition giving the sign that your relationship is sinking.
1) Trust is the pillar of any relationship.
Trust is the foundation or the cornerstone of maintaining a strong bond. If your partner shows a lack of trust, then it is time to raise the red flag. Minor incidents due to a circumstance also occur where the partner does not establish trust for the sake of their safety. For instance, if your partner tells you to stop talking to an individual, it does not necessarily mean that he/she is controlling you. It can also mean that your partner is protecting you since that individual does not have a good history. Therefore, lack of trust can create misunderstandings and can be fatal or poisonous. It can also turn your relationship into a toxic one affecting your mental health. Signs of Mental Health.
2) Lack of intimacy.
If you notice that your partner is giving you excuses to avoid intimacy, then it means that he/she is guilty about something or is not interested anymore. Intimacy is the first sign of a sinking relationship. Those cuddles and pillow talk have a deep meaning in a relationship and are quite underrated. When couples stop doing this, your intuition will tell you that something is off. You will be out of sync with each other and ultimately the death of years of bonding.
Signs like avoiding to sleep in the same bed, not showing interest to be intimate, and not kissing often lead to the demise of a relationship.
3) One dominates the other.
Relationships are supposed to be like the pedal and the wheels of a cycle. Both are equally important to keep the bicycle moving, and life is the one pedaling it. However, there are instances where your partner can be dominating and controlling towards you. The partner experiencing this tends to feel like a puppet and finds it difficult to breathe mentally. A couple is supposed to be comfortable and easygoing with each other. But this feeling of controlling ruins things by dissolving the comfort that a relationship offers; therefore, if you experience such a feeling, it’s time to either face it or get out of the toxicity.
4) Understanding is absent.
Understanding is a quality that prolongs a relationship and makes you grow fonder towards each other. For instance, if you get a job offer in California and your partner and you are currently living in New York, your partner should understand the importance of that job in your life. If your partner readily understands your decision, then the relationship can be strong. If your partner is ready to compromise now, it is assured that he/she might do the same in the future. If there were no understanding in that situation, then the relationship would meet a dead end. And, of course, the example also infers the importance of trust, which is discussed previously.
5) The feeling of being trapped.
When your partner dominates and controls everything, such as controlling hangouts with friends or changing your eating habits, it is time to red flag the relationship. Imagine if your partner does not allow you to meet a friend or family member, i.e., controlling every aspect of your life. It makes you feel like you are in prison, just like the North Korean dictator dictating its citizens to do something forcibly. Nothing good will come out of this, and if you do get this feeling, it is time to break the bars of the prison and fly out free. After all, you are not a dog in a cage waiting for your master to give you a treat.
6) Not respecting each other’s perspectives.
Opposites attract, or do they? In a relationship where perspectives don’t match, it is time to discard it for the sake of future well-being. For instance, if you like vegan food and your partner is a meat lover, it is obvious that things won’t work out. You will argue now and then on such small matters. Silly arguments like opting for eco-friendly products or just regular products have a huge impact on a relationship. Couples who do not share the same perspective have a lot to converse about, but mostly, it is all about arguing. It depends on your personality if you like such arguments or not and accordingly take the right decision. If you don’t share the same perspective but have a good understanding, you can go for it.
8) Your family is important, and no one should stand between it.
Family is the most important aspect of your life. Your partner should not set restrictions on talking or meeting your family member. Besmirching about family members and instigating fights infers that it is time to search for a new partner. When he/she starts disregarding your family member, it shows that they are not compatible with each other. Such incidences will show your partner’s true colors. After all, marriage is the joining of two souls and two families. Find out Secrets To A Lasting Marriage
9) Not respecting your personal space.
Individual growth does matter even if you are mingled in a relationship. Individual development occurs when you have personal space to grow and inculcate and absorb qualities that ultimately shape you. If your partner does not respect your boundaries, it shows a lack of understanding and trust in a relationship. For instance, if you like going for a run alone, your partner should respect this and not tag along with you. It might sound silly at first, but such small things matter. It is not about being picky but about looking out for yourself.
10) Forcing to take the next step.
Patience is a virtue, and all good things happen with time. Forcing someone to do something at an escalated rate is like pushing a boulder with bare hands. This affects both you and your partner in a relationship. For instance, if you feel like proposing to your partner, but your partner is not ready, things might get ruined. And if your partner forces you to accept the proposal, then things are wrong. If this is happening at this stage, imagine what will happen in the later stages of your life.
11) Disrespecting your ideals and body shaming.
Your ideas and personality make you who you are. It is the one thing in a relationship that you should not compromise in a relationship. Your uniqueness makes you stand out, and when someone tries to hinder this, you are obliviated, and you have lost your essence. When you feel this is happening in your relationship, either confront the problem or let go of the bond. You can resolve the issue by facing it only if your partner shows understanding and makes amends. Else no one deserves a second chance and immediately discard the relationship.
Conclusion.
It is tough to be away from your partner, but when you observe red flags in your relationship, it is time to let go or confront it. It cannot be easy at first, but it is the right decision to take. Relationships come and go, but you are stuck to your soul. Never compromise it.
